LJ ate this and I've been lazy about the repost, though added some more stuff.

Been bad about getting around to scanning the 24hr comic(doesn't help when I leave it at someone else's house XP). In trade...
( Various comics-related things )

Especially since I always seem to think of how I could have better phrased things once I've had some sleep. Oh well.

I did the 24 hour comic(24 pages in 24 hours) this past weekend, will try to scan it by Friday. Not sure that it is too good and it did go a little weird around page 16 or so when my brain was very much 'screw this' but hopefully it's not too horrible. I think I like it.

...with the aide of doctoreon providing for easier copypasta.

The Dos and Don'ts of Being A Good Ally

1. Don't derail a discussion. Even if it makes you personally uncomfortable to discuss X issue...it's really not about you or your comfort. It's about X issue, and you are absolutely free to not engage rather than try to keep other people from continuing their conversation.

2. Do read links/books referenced in discussions. Again, even if the things being said make you uncomfortable, part of being a good ally is not looking for someone to provide a 101 class midstream. Do your own heavy lifting.

3. Don't expect your feelings to be a priority in a discussion about X issue. Oftentimes people get off onto the tone argument because their feelings are hurt by the way a message was delivered. If you stand on someone's foot and they tell you to get off? The correct response is not "Ask nicely" when you were in the wrong in the first place.

4. Do shut up and listen. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of listening to the people actually living X experience. There is nothing more obnoxious than someone (however well intentioned) coming into the spaces of a marginalized group and insisting that they absolutely have the solution even though they've never had X experience. You can certainly make suggestions, but don't be surprised if those ideas aren't well received because you've got the wrong end of the stick somewhere.

5. Don't play Oppresion Olympics. Really, if you're in the middle of a conversation about racism? Now is not the time to talk about how hard it is to be a white woman and deal with sexism. Being oppressed in one area does not mean you have no privilege in another area. Terms like intersectionality and kyriarchy exist for a reason. Also...that's derailing. Stop it.

6. Do check your privilege. It's hard and often unpleasant, but it's really necessary. And you're going to get things wrong. Because no one is perfect. But part of being an ally is being willing to hear that you're doing it wrong.

7. Don't expect a pass into safe spaces because you call yourself an ally. You're not entitled to access as a result of not being an asshole. Sometimes it just isn't going to be about you or what you think you should happen. Your privilege didn't fall away when you became an ally, and there are intra-community conversations that need to take place away from the gaze of the privileged.

8. Do be willing to stand up to bigots. Even if all you do is tell a friend that the thing they just said about X marginalized group is unacceptable, you're doing some of the actual work of being an ally.

9. Don't treat people like accessories or game tokens. Really, you get no cool points for having a diverse group of friends. Especially when you try to use that as license to act like an asshole.

10. Do keep trying. Fighting bigotry is a war, not a battle and it's generational. So, keep your goals realistic, your spirits up (taking a break to recoup emotional, financial, physical reserves is a-okay), and your heart in the right place. Eventually we'll get it right.

1. <b>Don't</b> <a href="http://www.derailingfordummies.com/" target="blank">derail</a> a discussion. Even if it makes you personally uncomfortable to discuss X issue...it's really not about you or your comfort. It's about X issue, and you are absolutely free to not engage rather than try to keep other people from continuing their conversation.<br><br>2. <b>Do</b> read links/books referenced in discussions. Again, even if the things being said make you uncomfortable, part of being a good ally is not looking for someone to provide a 101 class midstream. Do your own heavy lifting.<br><br>3. <b>Don't</b> expect your feelings to be a priority in a discussion about X issue. Oftentimes people get off onto the <a href="http://inalasahl.livejournal.com/149900.html" target="blank">tone argument</a> because their feelings are hurt by the way a message was delivered. If you stand on someone's foot and they tell you to get off? The correct response is not "Ask nicely" when you were in the wrong in the first place.<br><br>4. <b>Do</b> shut up and listen. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of listening to the people actually living X experience. There is nothing more obnoxious than someone (however well intentioned) coming into the spaces of a marginalized group and insisting that they absolutely have the solution even though they've never had X experience. You can certainly make suggestions, but don't be surprised if those ideas aren't well received because you've got the wrong end of the stick somewhere.<br><br>5. <b>Don't</b> play <a href="http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=eb2&q=%22oppression+olympics%22&aq=f&oq=&aqi=" target="blank">Oppresion Olympics</a>. Really, if you're in the middle of a conversation about racism? Now is not the time to talk about how hard it is to be a white woman and deal with sexism. Being oppressed in one area does not mean you have no privilege in another area. Terms like intersectionality and kyriarchy exist for a reason. Also...that's derailing. Stop it.<br><br>6. <b>Do</b> check your privilege. It's hard and often unpleasant, but it's really necessary. And you're going to get things wrong. Because no one is perfect. But part of being an ally is being willing to hear that you're doing it wrong.<br><br>7. <b>Don't</b> expect a pass into safe spaces because you call yourself an ally. You're not entitled to access as a result of not being an asshole. Sometimes it just isn't going to be about you or what you think you should happen. Your privilege didn't fall away when you became an ally, and there are intra-community conversations that need to take place away from the gaze of the privileged.<br><br>8. <b>Do</b> be willing to stand up to bigots. Even if all you do is tell a friend that the thing they just said about X marginalized group is unacceptable, you're doing some of the actual work of being an ally.<br><br>9. <b>Don't</b> treat people like accessories or game tokens. Really, you get no cool points for having a diverse group of friends. Especially when you try to use that as license to act like an asshole.<br><br>10. <b>Do</b> keep trying. Fighting bigotry is a war, not a battle and it's generational. So, keep your goals realistic, your spirits up (taking a break to recoup emotional, financial, physical reserves is a-okay), and your heart in the right place. Eventually we'll get it right.

Derp. I haven't posted in a bit so have some random junk.
( Trinity, Death, and casual nudity )

The cubs made their first public appearance yesterday. News site's got a video up of them. :)


On another note, I'm a little sad because Ms. Clima's heading out on Saturday and I might not see her for awhile(months to years) once she's gone. :(

There's been this kid running around my house the past few days, whom I suspect may be related to me in some way, so yesterday M and I took her to the park. It was okay at first but by the end of things I was reminded of why, if I wasn't gay, I'd be getting my tubes tied. Not saying all kids are horrible or anything but they're just honestly not for me. Anywho, at one point M and her agreed I wasn't strong(lies and slander) so M carried her around on her back a bit. Somehow this lead to the kid asking questions.
Kid-thing: And how old are you?
M: She's 21.
Kid-thing: What?! Nuh uh!
Me: Yep.
Kid-thing: *says something I can't hear, M bursts out laughing*
Me: *stops and turns around* What'd she say?
Kid-thing: You're too small to be 21.
Me: I am not.
Kid-thing: Uh huh. You're really short.
And so, for the rest of the day, I was dubbed 'short 21 year old'. She also concluded at some point, having met my siblings, I was lying about being the oldest kid in my family since I'm 'the littlest sister'. :\

For some reason, on a thread that had nothing to do with him or the animals of Avatar, there was a derailment leading to the conclusion that Bosco(the Earth King's pet bear) isn't just a normal bear but just one specially bred to have mostly bear traits. At that point someone offered up the theory that he has itty bitty wings.
( So... )

I've been incredibly on edge since getting home. Shouted at everyone at least once within the first few hours of being home. Hung out with Ena & co. yesterday since John leaves for Denmark tomorrow, fair amount of drinking and pie occurred. Spent half of today just out and about since being in the house was driving me mad. Can't seem to get myself to settle down, need to grocery shop but being around people right now seems incredibly unsavory. :|

Pointless post is pointless so have a shoe I started on for an /ic/ meme...